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#1 09/23/2009 10:30:14am

KarenHarvey
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I love you just the way you are

The topic for this week is loving your child as he is – looking at why this is sometimes a challenge, and finding ways to be more accepting.  For more information and specific ideas, please read the blog.

Your assignment:  Is it sometimes difficult for you to accept your child as he is?  Do you find yourself wanting to change him in some fundamental way?  Take a step back and see how you can address issues and redirect behavior without expecting your child to be someone he isn’t.  Pay more attention to his positive traits, being less controlling and more accepting. 

Please share your ideas and thoughts, and how you plan to complete this week’s assignment.

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#2 09/23/2009 11:01:23am

creatress
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Re: I love you just the way you are

Great topic. I feel this is extra difficult for parents of special needs children. It's so easy to get focused on their deficits and difficulties and lose sight of their gifts and talents when all your energy goes into IEP's, therapy meetings and medical assessments.

It's also very difficult to keep reminding your child that the purpose of all these assessments and therapies is to give them tools (just like school) to succeed and make life easier for them. -whew- no small task.

I swing back and forth between feeling like I'm doing a good job of making sure he knows I adore who he is and don't want to change him at all and him feeling insecure due to his special challenges. I never find it difficult to except him for who he is, but I think others do (including his father sometimes) and he picks up on that.

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#3 09/25/2009 6:06:06pm

KarenHarvey
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Re: I love you just the way you are

Thanks for your insights - that's such a good point about special needs children, who come with a whole additional challenge requiring so much love, patience and understanding.  It can sometimes be hard for the parent of such a child to focus on the positive when others (teachers, doctors, or even family members) have difficulty seeing what's right rather than what's wrong.

Your son is so lucky to have you; having even one person who completely accepts him can make a world of difference as he grows up.

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